If Not Love : What defines a marriage? What are the ties that bind? It cannot only be a question of love . . . If not love, then what keeps a marriage or relationship together? Is it a matter of knowledge, of kindness, or simply the familiarity of a long road traveled together? If Not Love is a candid exploration of the lives of six women who, unknowingly, are all connected to one another. In this moving debut novel, each one must confront and accept an uncomfortable reality, and recognize what their relationships teach them about themselves. The truths of their marriages are far from an idealization of love; instead they carry with them an understanding of what it is to be a wife, a mother, a lover.